Orich, with all this talk of detaching, I hope you won't lose your humanness toward you wife. I don't believe a policeman needs lessons in detaching. The ones I've met know perfectly well how to size up a situation without getting emotionally involved.
While detaching from her emotional ups and downs may help you for the next two weeks, it will be exactly the wrong way to approach Retrouvaille. There, you will be asked to express your feelings in colorful language. And you will be asked to feel your partners feelings. You will be practicing empathy, not dtachment. You will be engaged in a way that you have not engaged in years. So detach in the short run, if it helps with day to day ups and downs. But don't pack that in your bag when you go to Retrouvaille. That is not a skill you will use in rebuilding your marriage.
