Today I started getting prepared for seperation. Opened a new checking account for myself. Cancelled cleaning service because I won't be able to afford it anymore. These are really hard things for me to do, but I need to do them to move forward. I am holding off on stopping W cell phone service. MIL still uses her phone and I do not want to turn it off on her.
Its been hard today. But in a different way. It isn't: "oh my god how am I ever going to live without her" anymore. It is more: "How can she do this to the girls. And life as a single parent is going to suck. And am I going to have to stay in this town till D3 turns 18?" That is where I am today.
Regardless of the outcome, you'll be able to handle all of this.
And when your wife mentions that what she's doing is going to benefit both of you and possibly make your relationship stronger if you ever reconcile, I would tell her not to count on you waiting for her should her affair not work out, you have more respect for yourself than to be someone's 2nd option/backup plan.
