Thanks for the clarification and yes, I get the feeling that my W is a lot like you XW in several regards. I am still amazed that despite the way your W treated you during the entire sitch- while refusing to drop the OM- she is now wishy-washy about her D decision.
As you may have noticed in my recent post back to Sandi, my thinking is that I would like to accelerate pushing my W into relying on OM for more that sunshine in her ear, ideally get her to ask him for some $$$ to help finance an apartment of her own. Problem is, she doesn't want to rock the boat with OM and burst the fantasy bubble. I think she knows deep down he is not reliable. So right now she is hiding behind our kids trying to make everything MY problem to worry about.
So any ideas on implementing "tough love" techniques with my W with the purpose of also putting strain on my W's A would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks again.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
