I do agree...at some point whether it is nice guy, co-dependency, or some thing else....at some point we all fall into a category. Your situation is just so extreme there must be a painfully obvious reason for it all....just so hard to see. There are a lot of "maybe it is this", but nothing that is very hard and fast...well maybe the vibrating co-worker...lol

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