Dr. appt was first, I have "occipital neuralgia". Inflammation/misfire of occipital nerve. She shot me up with lidocaine, that was pleasant! She also put me on Cymbalta to help with tension/stress bc that causes the flare-ups to intensify, which is why that had gotten so bad.
Lawyer appt was second. I put down my retainer $3200. Ouch!!! They are going to ask Dan for it back though. 50/50 chance I will get it paid for by Dan, depends on the judge.
Didn't file today, I will go back later this week for that. Just gave them all the vital statistic stuff they need to write it up. I will go back and sign it and bring them stuff they wanted that I didn't have with me. Account #s, balances if I have them, kids social security #s, etc.
Chances are it will get expensive. Atty wants to hire a special accountant to review Dan's finances and see if he is hiding money/assets anywhere. Once I file they will move to freeze his 401K and prevent him from "wasting marital assets".
In other purely coincidental news...
Dan showed up last night (our Anniversary) to hang w/the kids for an hour before bed, and put them to bed. He came out, and then said he didn't want a divorce. He needed to decide whether he wanted to make it work but he didn't want a divorce. I told him it wasn't up to him anymore.
He said he thought it would not be hard IF he decided he wanted to make it work, it was a matter of deciding and sticking to it. I said IF he decided and IF I decided I would let him have a chance, it would be the hardest work he ever did and would require more of him than he probably had to give.
Did I mention he was still seeing her periodically? Yeah, those weren't "phantom" charges in the bank statement after all. But of course, he can turn that off on a dime if he 'decides he wants to'......whatever pal.
I said thanks for sharing but I am still going to the attorney. Words mean absolutely nothing to me now.
IF he decided he wanted to make it work, it was a matter of deciding and sticking to it. I said IF he decided and IF I decided I would let him have a chance, it would be the hardest work he ever did and would require more of him than he probably had to give. 
