Ya know, somthing else I need to get off my chest (which is bigger now since I've been working out). My friend said he and his W were aware my W and I were having problems. My W told me when she dropped the bomb that she had told NO ONE, and then got pi$$ed at me when I confided in one of my closest friends who himself had been through a divorce. Dam%. Uh...dam$.
I'm not upset (maybe mildly peturbed). Just needed to let go of that emotion.
You have a right to be open about this and to tell people. Of course, be discrete, but I would not allow your W to dictate to whom you can talk.
For a while now I have been opening up about my Sitch to a number of my friends - not complaining, but just being open and honest about what is going on in my life. The interesting thing is that when I do that, they reciprocate and I have found that a surprisingly large percentage of the men I know are either going through a situation like this, or have recently gone through it. Some got D'd, some reconciled, and some are still figuring it out, but the situation seems to be almost universal.
More surprising to note is that almost none of them thought that anyone else was going through something similar. They are all going through it on their own in silence.
I'm glad you and your friend have a chance to talk about it together.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
