Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Thinker]

She didn't let you know about her breakfast plans because you are not letting her in all your rooms. That is the connection with her man she needs. So open up more

I guess where I keep getting stuck is how to pull this off without it being pursuit. What I hear you saying is to open up my emotions to her, which means R talk, which I thought was taboo. Is it that I should tell her how I'm feeling? I don't see how I can have that discussion without it leading to US.

Hi GIMA,

"No R Discussions" does not mean "No Discussions" or even "No Discussions about Emotions" it just means "No Discussions about your R"

What Coach is saying is open up to your W about everything else in your L. Tell her (unprompted) about what is going on at work - frustrations, stories, etc. Tell her about your friends, your goals and dreams for the future (no, not about the future of the R, about what you want in the future), etc.

If your experience is like mine, at first it will be like talking to a wall - you talk away and get no response - but after a while it helps.

I also found the opposite to be true. If you don't talk about those things (ie just don't talk) your W will start to fill in the blanks for herself, and the guesses she makes will be neither true nor complimentary toward you.