Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[dday101798]

BJ,

Ooooh, yes, XW did and does still have OM. She uprooted and left to move in with hime a week after I caught them. Despite all my requests that if she is going to be with him, fine, but not in front of the kids, she integrated him effective immediately. That was July 11 of last year. By Thanksgiving, they had "engaged" but have a "open relationship", ewww. Kicker is, I knew OM before I knew XW and the type of slime bucket he is, at least I do know she headed my advice and gets regular checkups, at least up until she was dropped from my insurance.

There were a few times from late summer until New Years that she would say she wasn't sure what she was doing, still loves me, wouldn't say anything (still doesnt) of how she feels for OM, and I never got the ILYBINILY load. Matter of fact, just recently she said she had called off the engagment sighting she didn't know what she wanted, [duh!]

But anyhow, things went awry after New Years, XW was enraged by a female friend of mine hanging around the house and automatically assumed as 'my girlfriend', quite comical, physically assaulted me in front of the kids, no I'm not a wuss, I won't touch her and post bomb I had lost some 45 pounds.

I had planned ahead as LRT and sent letters to her and her father whose name our house was in that I would leave 2/1/09. After some sweet talking I stayed until the D was filed 2/5 and I never saw my S12 on his birthday 2/14, thus I left to move with family. Probably my biggest mistake right there, but it was a losing battle in that house anyway.

Filed and order of protection against her, and her answer in February was finally filing for D. From there 'til June 9th when the D was final, it GOT UGLY, REALLY UGLY. XW claims the mudslinging was her L's ideas, I don't buy it. They tried to take all access away from my kids til their faces were purple. In the end, joint custody, she has residential, and I see them the a-typical every other weekend. At least I know has hit home with her as I remind her every chance I get what it feels like to be a 72 hour a month 'parent', and she does get emotional about it.

Of course, as said, blames me for the D in all regards, and STILL to this day sees nothing wrong with how she went about destroying our family..........

Until, I turned the tables on her and checked out of this toxic relationship. She made the mess, she can clean it up, then if there's any point, we can talk.

Your W sounds of the same demeanor. My pleasure to help you avoid any mistakes I made, and who knows, maybe spare you the big D?