HI gobison I personally do not like text messages, if she wants to contact you then she should call you. IF she wants to go over stuff let her initiate. If you are wanting to contact her, are you confident that she will want to talk to you? Going dark is always the hardest part of DB because it is implied that you are going Dark so you can GAL, but if she doesn't want to do anything with you how does she know you gal? I guess the answer lies in the fact that now she has to make time for you cuz you are too busy with your own stuff to bother about her, right?
Do not go into #2 unless you are confident that she won't clam up and go dark herself.
My wife said something very interesting to me the other day, she said that we need to work on trust. I didn't quite understand what she meant at first, but then it dawned on me. She doesn't trust that when we argue my tone won't be condascending so she is always on the defensive from the get go. Comprende? So basically your W has to trust you not to do trigger her emotions and vice versa.
You basically have to rebuild from scratch. ITs hard but not impossible. You already know her and already have a foundation.
