3 years of S, OW gone - What do I want?

[K4D]

I only posted that sight because you said you were looking for signs and that told me that you believe in God and are someone who prays.

You are right in that a D will not stop you and your H from getting back together. However, we know that God hates D. I know that it is hard to stand and stand and stand. I am coming up on year 1 for my M. And yes, my W has been unfaithful to. And that was extremely hard to live with and believe me I wanted to at that point run off and be with someone else. But I know that isn't what God wants or expects of me. So I stand and wait on his perfect timing.

I don't know why God restores some M's in a couple of months and others in years. All I know is his timing is perfect.

Is there any reason why you still can't live your life without filing for D? What changes by filing for D? If you have a covenant M, what really changes? I don't see how that brings closure.

Can you continue to live your own life while praying for your H's heart to be changed? I don't recommend filing for D. I just think you should live your life as it is, pray for your H to be converted and saved and work to make yourself happy.

Remember, D is nothing more than a legal piece of paper. It doesn't change the status of your covenant.

Yes, I could say the same things about my W. It is not easy to stand and watch and know what is going on. At the same time, we have to keep our eyes focused on the Lord and not our current circumstances which do and will continue to change.

I'm just trying to be encouraging to you and I am hoping that you do not give up. Live your life, but keep praying. Ultimately, your prayers may determine where he ends up.

Kevin