Hi Swimming.... I don't think you are crazy....but I think the crazy you are experiencing is more in your head than anywhere else. Here is what I am telling you....you want to get rid of her? This is how: STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE A BETTER PERSON THAN HER. Do you want to know why he goes to her? Because you can't stop bitching. You bitch about her and so much more. Really, who wants to listen to it? Would you? Seriously? She does not bitch at him. She tells him how great he is and agrees with EVERYTHING he says. He's perfect with her, he's not with you. Guess who he'd rather hang out with and talk to? Do this: For just one week....only seven days starting NOW, tell him you want a truce. Give him a piece of paper. You need one too. Write down all the things you don't want to talk about anymore because they make you fight. Tell him to do the same thing. Compare lists, modify them if you need to, then put them up somewhere where only two will see them. Make copies of them to keep with each of you. Tell him you are doing this because you don't want to fight anymore. You want calm and peace. You both deserve it. Once you get past one week....that's the goal, set up the goal again...maybe longer this time. And keep doing it.
When you become the better choice, you won't even have to ASK him to drop her, he just will. And what will happen is he'll notice things are nice at home. She'll call or text and he won't respond because he won't want to because he's having a normal good time with you. Then guess what? She becomes the one getting upset and angry with him, making crazy accusations acting nutty and out of control, whatever. (Not saying you are, but you understand, right?)
This will be a slow slow slow slow process. Hang on but do it stead fast. You can do this. You can change the whole situation by changing YOU.
