I think she still has deep within her a desire to keep the family together. We still do things as a family on weekends, and she appears happy enough then. I can even talk to her a little easier. That might be what is keeping her going. I think if she really didn't want to go, she would put up more of a stink. I didn't think I should have added to the agreement of going to Retro, thats why I didn't.
I understand about treating her like a roommate. I am trying to get there. It is difficult for me, but I think I can do it. I have had small successes so far, even if I had large failures.
If things don't go well at Retro, I'm not 100% sure what I am going to do, but I do know that I will play a little more hardball. In my mind at that point I think I will be able to truly accept the "what is she going to do, divorce me?" mentality because by then it might be a foregone conclusion. Right now it is hard to accept that because of the hope I have in the Retro weekend.


Me-40
W-41
Together-10
M-8
S-6
S-4
Bomb 5/08
Bomb 10/08
Thought things were better, was wrong.
Still living together
Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.