First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks Kat. You trying to make me cry? Good think my admin is out this afternoon and all the guys are busy away from the office. I have an image to keep up ya know!

I agree with you. I know I look at things a whole lot differently now, and I think W is too.

I don't know how we're going to survive it when so many others don't. Maybe because I'm too pig headed to quit? I do think that without my group of friends here (and a couple of very close friends in RL) we'd never have made it. Once you understand how these things can happen, it does make it easier to detach/forgive/love from a distance.

I also think no one should underestimate just what impact my S17 had. I'm sure W believed all the crap OM was telling her and she was ready to move on to a ready made life with him and she thought everyone would just be happy for her, our kids included. But when he shreaded her that night 15 months ago, that was the dose of reality she needed. It still took oh so long and I was ready to give up so many times, but every time I'd look at him or his brother, I just had to give it more effort because I didn't want them to have to deal with separate birthdays and Christmas' etc.

Timing? I'm sure that played a part. S17 being so close to graduating H.S. made W agreeable to staying married until he was done with school which gave me over 2 years to DB my A** off. Whole bunch of love? Yep, that too. I don't think I ever realized just what real love is until this. Don't get me wrong, I've always loved W, but when you have to love without any expectations of getting ANYTHING in return, you find out just what it means. And that's one good thing that's come out of this.

It's taught me patience that I never knew I had and never thought I could possibly muster. And that's helped in all area's of my life.

So...I guess I'm saying that I can see how this mess can make our marriage stronger, if we do the work and take what we've learned to make it better. Don't get me wrong, I'd prefer it never happened, but what's the saying? When life gives you lemons, make lemonaid?

Thanks Kat.