Divorce not busted 3

[Energizer Bunny]

when we are together in the house, do I just ignore her?

I've had a little success with making sure I have lots to do. Go to the store. Work in the garage. Mow the grass. Etc. Going to the gym is good.
I talk on the phone to friends a lot.

I know what you mean. It is weird. Don't ignore, just don't initiate often. If it seems weird go find something to do in another room.

I do realize how codependant I am on her.

I don't have the same philosophy as some of the others on Codependency. My W claims that she is CoDep because she has let me determine her moods too much. Granted, we are all learning how to put up emotional boundaries to protect ourselves in a time of crisis, but when all is normal it SHOULD effect you when your spouse is having issues. Have you read MWD's Change Your Life and Everyone in it? She said that according to experts 96% of people are codependent. In other words, a certain level of CoDep is NORMAL.

It's just overboard is never good and you have do pretty much do away with it all together to get through the crisis.