UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[MrBond]

"Is that timeline reasonable, too long, too short ... comments please??"

Only you will know when you've had enough. Again this is not a "strategy" per se. Let's put it this way. If he doesn't contact you after a month, what will you plan to do? Or more importantly, what do you plan to do in the month that you are going dark? You still haven't mentioned that.

"I don't want to let his leash out too long."

Here again, you want to have some kind of control over his actions. You can't control him. He doesn't have a leash right now. He's out roaming the neighborhood and may never come back. You have to live with that reality and just detach.

To detach is to live your life the way you want to. Make that your priority. Detachment. There's a saying "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back it was meant to be."