I've visited the site before. It's been a long, hard 3+ years of standing while my H had an A. I lasted longer than I ever imagined I could and did the best that I could. I don't regret standing and I could and might even stand longer. But I'm not a die hard stander. I don't believe in forever committing yourself to a M that has been destroyed and long abandoned by your spouse.
A D won't stop me from getting back together with my H if he ever came around. Nor will it stop me from loving my H unconditionally. What it will do, I hope, is bring some closure for me and help me to detach from being so hung up on the M itself. Having a man slut for an XH is somehow far better than having a man slut for a H.
