Well, this was a terrible weekend. I found out she is still seeing the OM and will not agree to stop seeing him even if that means eliminating family time. She views the ultimatum I gave her as a form of control and she is proabably right. However, my intent is not control. How can I be around her when I know she is involved with another man? I want to continue family time for the seake of the kids but being around her is just to painful. She also wants to continue to have family time. I asked why she wants me around during those times and she stated it was "nicer" having me there.
I did a terrible job of DB this weekend as well. I entered into a R discussion with her and heard for the 100th time why we are not a good couple and why divorce is our only option. I also asked to many questions about the OM. She is now calling him "babe" and really likes him. She said they have only gone on a few dates and have not been intimate. She also mentioned she is not sure if she wants to get too serious with him as she is 12 years older and is not sure if the R will work. I am sure he flatters her and makes her feel special, something I have not been to good at. During this time she did admit she still loves me and that she is not sure what she wants (other than going out and having a good time).
