I support the 180 tactic - standing up for yourself and feeling that anger! You are right - YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS - YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. Can you write a letter to him expressing this - don't mail it, don't let him see it. But put all your strength down in a letter where you can let him have it. It doesn't have to be an ultimatum, but it can be all the reasons why you deserve better treatment and why you are worth it! I have done this and it gave me a lot of stregth.
Or do nothing. Sit with your anger and feel the power of deserving better. It can be hard when you want H back so much. It can be hard when you fear he would never change. But standing up to him is exactly the right thing to do. I'm convinced of it. Whether it is to his face, or an attitude you gain inside yourself, almost doesn't matter. It will change the dynamic.
