If she truly was ready to be a wife and mother she would be making the effort to do so. Part of believing none of what they say is to also disregard some of this positive spin she's putting on. Her actions are saying, "I'm still living the single life and really want to hook up with OM, but I'm lonely when he isn't around". You are a fallback plan...a safety net. It can't be as easy as that.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer