Divorce not busted 3

[Energizer Bunny]

I'm no expert, (Obviously, or I wouldn't be in my own mess), but here's my thought.

I finally stopped saying anything about anything. My W came home in the middle of the night. I didn't say a word. She put stuff on her Fbook page that was obvious baiting for me. I didn't say a word. She had a B'day party and didn't invite me. I didn't way a word.

She finally broke down this weekend.

From what I could tell, she has been VERY angry and resentful toward me for years of what I have considered little things. The more I questioned her, the more justified she felt about being a total b*tch. I stopped doing those things, but she was still full of anger. To justify her anger she had to drop more bait and get me going again. If I responded, she was able to say "See, I am justified in my anger toward him. He gets into my business, I don't have my own space, we argue, etc."

By not reacting anymore she didn't have any more fuel for her fire. It feels like I am getting walked on, but I think that it will win out in the long run. (They know what they are doing is wrong/rude/inconsiderate/hurtful and the more we remind them of it the more it seems to keep them going)

Your W and mine seem very similar. Maybe she hasn't been getting the reaction out of you lately that justifies her actions/feelings, so she has had to ramp it up. Maybe going to Retro is scaring her.


My suggestion. Leave it alone.