Speaking from experience, the only way these kids are going to come through this unscathed is by having a structured schedule all the time. Too much back and forth on an inconsistent basis between parents is very confusing to any child, regardless of age.
As I am sure you have realized, the kids will have to be put first. So if it is in their best interest to stay with you in the house during the week, then you have to make that choice.
I have a paper I wrote for school on divorce and kids, based off of several different articles, and the general opinion is that divorce initially is very difficult on children, but it idepends on how the parents handle it that will determine the transition.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
