You're right, I know. I guess a lot of details get left out when you have so many. He doesn't yell or scream. He doesn't believe that raising voices is a good thing. I am always the one who does that out of frustration.
It is really just the distance he has created between us, making it impossible to have a healthy R in any way.
H did come back to our bed last night, said the couch was killing his back, even though we have a guest room with a Qbed in it.
We leave tomorrow to take the boys away for the rest of the week before school starts next week. I plan on just enjoying the time we will all get to spend together and watching my sons enjoy themselves.
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
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