It really irks me when people say there is OP (other person) when they have NO idea. As if a woman would never just get fed up and want to reassess their life and situation...
The space thing is a flag but without knowing, it can be a real diversion from looking at the M issues.
AAK I know it irks you but in the last few threads that we've commented on together, there has been the OP in each of those situations, it's common enough because it happens regularly so that is why people make the assumption.
And yes I know what they say about the word ASSUME, makes an ASS out of U and ME.
In braindead's sitch, his wife is having an affair so it's applicable as well.
The one thing that is very common with WAS's is... resentment. Resentment for the way their relationship ended up, how they were treated all these years, how their needs weren't met, how they "tried" to communicate but were never heard/listened to, etc. The one thing about resentment, it breeds entitlement and that's why it's common for WAS's to have affairs, they haven't been getting their needs met in their marriages so they feel entitled to having an affair.
