CRAP! You're teasing me! I'll reply a bit later... I'll stick a quick journal update in first...
Saturday am S12 had a soccer game. Played the Madison FC U13 tteam. We didn't look good, but we tied. S12's girlfriend came, and I think his head was not in the game! I told his coach to thump him back into focus next time he sees the cutie brunette on the sidelines by me!
Took the boys out on the water Saturday afternoon. COLD!!! It was fun, though, and we took them to this bar/grill on the river for dinner. Good beer, good food, good fun.
Sunday was my Mom's birthday. She wanted everyone to go bowling (WHAT?) and out to lunch. That was all fine... D18 gave me a bit of a problem, prior to the event, but she ended up doing the right thing (AFTER she gave me an ulcer for the day!). It was good to have everyone together again. It had been awhile. Oh, the joys of club soccer!!!
After lunch with the fam, H and I took S12 and S9 for a stock up grocery shopping excursion. Here's where ONE of us hit a snag... (Now mind you, until this point, ALL has been going really good...) I meet them there, as I had driven separate. H calls my phone, asking where I'm at, and I tell him I'm in the entrance waiting for them. He says they're inside talking to some old friends. So, I go in, and he has taken off to the restroom, and the old friends are kind of joking around, and always were jokers w/H and me. However, Female Friend says, "Oh, that H, he's so funny..." Thought bubble (a f'ing riot really, I can't contain myself anymore... LOL) Male Friend says, "What a potty mouth for a Sunday!" He says it laughing, as he is too... I ask what he's talking about. He says, it was just funny. Then female friend says, "You know, H, he's always being silly. I asked him where you were and he said he got rid of you." LOL OH, SO FUNNY! H shows up then, acting completely normal, engaging, etc... Now, he is a joker, and especially if he's uncomfortable. This guys is a bit of a "basher," so I'm sure H was just playing along... BUT INTERNALLY I'M F'N PISSED!
I shop, seething, but don't say anything, and am just quiet. Pretty soon, half way through the shopping, I feel like I'm going to pass out from the anger, stress on my brain.
PRE-BOMB, had he said something like this I would have called him on it, in front of them, jokingly and bopped him on the head. POST-BOMB, it hurts. I know he was just being silly, and didn't intend for me to hear about it/know, but geeeeeeez!
Anyways, we get through it, and he is clueless.
We get home, and now the activity of the afternoon/evening is a switch of the boys rooms... D18 has moved out, now S9 wants her room, and S12 is interested in moving out of his room now, but decides against it... This is now requiring re-painting of four rooms, new cable connections for tv's, window treatments, etc...
OK, Miss Controller, rolls with the punches, and lets them all spin in this chaos. Then, H needs to run to the store to get something to do some cable work. Calls me and says he is thinking of buying them new TV's, as the ones they have are ancient, and leftovers from our lake house (that we sold and moved from four years ago). OK, fine, have fun picking them out... I'm going to make dinner (it's now 8:30pm), and he says he will be home soon. Half our later he's home, and I've made something he LOVES, and he's thrilled. We have a fun dinner. Then, H decides to show the boys the TV's he got them. So, it's now almost 10pm, and we have JUST BEGUN the project of setting up TV's! (Not to mention their mess of boxes, packaging, papers, etc...) So, I tell them, HOW FUN! Let's see what they look like... Just do me a quick favor, guys... Can you do S9's first, as they have school in the am, and PLEASE get rid of your garbage as the cleaning ladies are coming in the am? They agree happily and get about their business of tv's.
So, we are now repainting four rooms, re-wiring cable to two rooms, moving three beds, getting new window treatments in one room, moving two, and, creating a new guest room. All without ME throwing in unsolicited opinions (H, however, is seeking me out every 3 minutes to see what I think.).
Painter is here at 4pm today! GOD! LOL
Oh, and the back stairs carpet is being replaced.
Is it me, or is this odd? Hey, I'm just going with the flow...
I may, as a 180, tell H that I had an odd exchange with the couple while he was in the restroom, and wanted to share that I don't know what he said, but his words gave the couple the opinion he was talking about getting rid of me, jokingly. And, that it's not... funny... considering the circumstances. And, leave it.. with no tears, nothing.
Input appreciated.
Or just leave it?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
