Well, most of yesterday was spent up at Children's Hospital with my Joe-Joe. Today was spent with my dying brother-in-law and his family. Not much of a weekend, really. But next weekend, I am getting OUT OF TOWN! No stalker, no one dying in my immediate vicinity, no one trying to make me change stinky diapers in my classroom -- why, it'll be a dream come true!
Small sinking feeling in my stomach having to go in and face the troll tomorrow - but tomorrow night is the Open House, and I'll see all of my littles - yeah!! And I've made some strategic phone calls, and I've got several parents ready to rip out the throat of the troll. If she doesn't hire an assistant for my classroom tomorrow, I might kill myself.
ST - In a bit of a hurry... We are/were always in the same "bed," however, H's back had been hurting him. We played musical mattresses, and the past few weeks he had taken to liking a firmer feel, and was sleeping on only the box spring, next to D18's old Queen mattress on our King box spring. It was literally musical mattresses! I knew he was having issues, but with our history, current situation, etc... I felt like it could be an excuse to move farther (further? LOL) away from me. I told him as such, without emotion. Within a week, he was switching the mattresses back to normal, with an excuse "A friend of mine told me that if I propped my back up in the back, any mattress should be ok. Oh, and you're right, it's not really helping to sleep apart."
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
CRAP! You're teasing me! I'll reply a bit later... I'll stick a quick journal update in first...
Saturday am S12 had a soccer game. Played the Madison FC U13 tteam. We didn't look good, but we tied. S12's girlfriend came, and I think his head was not in the game! I told his coach to thump him back into focus next time he sees the cutie brunette on the sidelines by me!
Took the boys out on the water Saturday afternoon. COLD!!! It was fun, though, and we took them to this bar/grill on the river for dinner. Good beer, good food, good fun.
Sunday was my Mom's birthday. She wanted everyone to go bowling (WHAT?) and out to lunch. That was all fine... D18 gave me a bit of a problem, prior to the event, but she ended up doing the right thing (AFTER she gave me an ulcer for the day!). It was good to have everyone together again. It had been awhile. Oh, the joys of club soccer!!!
After lunch with the fam, H and I took S12 and S9 for a stock up grocery shopping excursion. Here's where ONE of us hit a snag... (Now mind you, until this point, ALL has been going really good...) I meet them there, as I had driven separate. H calls my phone, asking where I'm at, and I tell him I'm in the entrance waiting for them. He says they're inside talking to some old friends. So, I go in, and he has taken off to the restroom, and the old friends are kind of joking around, and always were jokers w/H and me. However, Female Friend says, "Oh, that H, he's so funny..." Thought bubble (a f'ing riot really, I can't contain myself anymore... LOL) Male Friend says, "What a potty mouth for a Sunday!" He says it laughing, as he is too... I ask what he's talking about. He says, it was just funny. Then female friend says, "You know, H, he's always being silly. I asked him where you were and he said he got rid of you." LOL OH, SO FUNNY! H shows up then, acting completely normal, engaging, etc... Now, he is a joker, and especially if he's uncomfortable. This guys is a bit of a "basher," so I'm sure H was just playing along... BUT INTERNALLY I'M F'N PISSED!
I shop, seething, but don't say anything, and am just quiet. Pretty soon, half way through the shopping, I feel like I'm going to pass out from the anger, stress on my brain.
PRE-BOMB, had he said something like this I would have called him on it, in front of them, jokingly and bopped him on the head. POST-BOMB, it hurts. I know he was just being silly, and didn't intend for me to hear about it/know, but geeeeeeez!
Anyways, we get through it, and he is clueless.
We get home, and now the activity of the afternoon/evening is a switch of the boys rooms... D18 has moved out, now S9 wants her room, and S12 is interested in moving out of his room now, but decides against it... This is now requiring re-painting of four rooms, new cable connections for tv's, window treatments, etc...
OK, Miss Controller, rolls with the punches, and lets them all spin in this chaos. Then, H needs to run to the store to get something to do some cable work. Calls me and says he is thinking of buying them new TV's, as the ones they have are ancient, and leftovers from our lake house (that we sold and moved from four years ago). OK, fine, have fun picking them out... I'm going to make dinner (it's now 8:30pm), and he says he will be home soon. Half our later he's home, and I've made something he LOVES, and he's thrilled. We have a fun dinner. Then, H decides to show the boys the TV's he got them. So, it's now almost 10pm, and we have JUST BEGUN the project of setting up TV's! (Not to mention their mess of boxes, packaging, papers, etc...) So, I tell them, HOW FUN! Let's see what they look like... Just do me a quick favor, guys... Can you do S9's first, as they have school in the am, and PLEASE get rid of your garbage as the cleaning ladies are coming in the am? They agree happily and get about their business of tv's.
So, we are now repainting four rooms, re-wiring cable to two rooms, moving three beds, getting new window treatments in one room, moving two, and, creating a new guest room. All without ME throwing in unsolicited opinions (H, however, is seeking me out every 3 minutes to see what I think.).
Painter is here at 4pm today! GOD! LOL
Oh, and the back stairs carpet is being replaced.
Is it me, or is this odd? Hey, I'm just going with the flow...
I may, as a 180, tell H that I had an odd exchange with the couple while he was in the restroom, and wanted to share that I don't know what he said, but his words gave the couple the opinion he was talking about getting rid of me, jokingly. And, that it's not... funny... considering the circumstances. And, leave it.. with no tears, nothing.
Input appreciated.
Or just leave it?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I missed who Joe-Joe is??? What a saint you are for going in to help out! Sounds like a bummer, but incredibly helpful weekend for you. You are such a blessing.
That freakin' troll needs to be thumped!!!!
Good call on the parental "input"!! Beautiful AND resourceful!!?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
This am, H is in the shower in our MBATH, and I'm talking to him (from behind the shower curtain), and we're kind of joking around about things, talking about the day, etc... He gets out of the shower stall w/a towel wrapped around him.
He's walking around me, in front of me, goofing off with the dog, etc... while he's picking out what to wear and talking. He goes by me, and back into the bathroom, and I kind of lunge at him (from behind) and give a good laugh. He turns around, "What?" I tell him, "I was so close to giving your towel a good yank off!" And, leave the room(s) laughing. As I was leaving I notice a wide mouthed, wide-eyed look on his face.
WTF is wrong with him? There is really not much wrong with US!
I found myself humorous, and totally out of my comfort zone. I am pretty sure he found it funny, too. Better off leaving laughing.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I need to post on my thread... had an intersting conversation with W this morning. The short of it is that she supports me going out with women. Pretty enthusiastically.
Oh, and I got a summary of the tourneys that S11's soccer team is planning to play in this year, Phoenix in late February was on the list!
This am, H is in the shower in our MBATH, and I'm talking to him (from behind the shower curtain), and we're kind of joking around about things, talking about the day, etc... He gets out of the shower stall w/a towel wrapped around him.
He's walking around me, in front of me, goofing off with the dog, etc... while he's picking out what to wear and talking. He goes by me, and back into the bathroom, and I kind of lunge at him (from behind) and give a good laugh. He turns around, "What?" I tell him, "I was so close to giving your towel a good yank off!" And, leave the room(s) laughing. As I was leaving I notice a wide mouthed, wide-eyed look on his face.
WTF is wrong with him? There is really not much wrong with US!
I found myself humorous, and totally out of my comfort zone. I am pretty sure he found it funny, too. Better off leaving laughing.
Awesome!! Stepping out of my comfort zones the last coupla times that I did it has really worked for me. Good job!
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
He's playing U12. I think it is probably the same tournament, though the info I got just says late February. I asked stbxw if she had the dates, she said she'd send them, then I'll know for sure!
I have a feeling we are going to be doing a lot of driving that weekend. I think it might make a lot of sense to stay up there, but I don't know what the plan is.
I just ran into Stacy in the alt... she is pretty busy with school starting, but she's ok!
