Actually, I don't think so, GIMA. The reason this sounded wise is partly that it also sounds like a new way to think about things. Yes, we should NOT hang on and obsess over every nuance of our interaction with our spouses, but I also think we all ended up here partly out of taking our spouses - and their alleged happiness in the R - for granted. So paying attention = GOOD!
I left a critical NOT out of this the first time around. I've restored it in the quote. Sheesh - stayed up too late!
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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