So pave the way. What would it take for your wife to have a relaxed, open conversation? Place, time, events leading up to the time, picture the whole scene (use your new found "sense").
Coach, I hear what you are saying. I feel like we have that opportunity each evening after we put the kids to bed. We are in the den, watch a little tv, surf the web on our laptops, and talk (lots of joking and small talk). There are a lot of distractions - tv and laptops. I have tried not opening my laptop and not turning on the tv. She is usually on her laptop.
I am going to have to think about your question a little more. Perhaps an evening of watching the stars on the back deck would be better. That just seems over the top to a certain extent. Oh, yeah, and my W is a mosquito magnet.
