That is the only thing that pains me about any of this -- that my own S's are brainwashed into accepting xW's warped perception of reality, where the usurper who helped destroy our family is automatically assumed to belong in this picture at all, as a natural and expected participant.
OM can have the wretched harlot. But the cost to my children's sense of right and wrong is just too much.
I had to vent that.
Of course. I do think in some ways AS kids don't maybe get 100% of the understanding that nt kids have. But, I still have realized my kids do have understanding, and I'm sure yours too. D9 (I think she was D8 though) once told me Daddy would love you again if he was nice, but he's not nice. And when we were watching a TV show (Chuck) where the main characters had dysfunctional dads, I think one left and the other was present but a criminal; S15 (14 at the time) said well it's better to have a bad dad, than no dad. Sounds like he's thought about that on his own.
I know God will turn this to good. They have you in their life to show them a good role model. I also think as they get older and less dependent on your W, they are going to realize more and more clearly what's going on. Karen
