Another thought re-reading Deep's comments (very helpful thank you), in some ways I feel like H is getting away w murder/anything..while not blantantly 'using me' he is totally disrespecting our marriage/vows/everything by just totally ignoring me, my presence, going on w his life as if i am not a part of it - without facing up to or having the courage to ask for a D. That is not a H. But if I say that he may just say the 'ok, we're done..' But it's not right what he's doing either...I feel between a rock and a hard place sometimes. I don't want to push him away more, but whenever I think what he's doing it seems like utter disrespect while I still am his wife.
