Stuck, I am really happy you have visited and I'm happy to have your opinion. Thanks. it's also great to have a male perspective.

Stuck, you haven't posted to me before so I just want to clarify that it's been 2 years, not 4. I'm wondering if you're thinking of Sanderika here?!

I am determined not to contact H but if I don't respond to him at all I'm wondering what the fall out effect maybe.