My H said he wants a D, I'm devastated!

[BeingMe]

Don't change what is working! Keep the aloofness, no R talk, and GAL. I don't think it was a problem attending the fair and having some fun as long as there was no R discussion. I feel you should keep your distance emotionally from him. Whatever is to happen, he should be the one who should be initiating it.

Should I continue including him in activities again?

Definitely NOT.

Look, don't think of DBing as a tactic, a way to manipulate your H back. NO! It is a way of saving yourself, putting YOU first. Letting go of his issues and working on yours. He is an adult and must work out his own happiness on his own. Then, once you are whole, he may see that you are the greener grass. However, he too should be whole, so it is a lot of work. But, this is the GAL part. Finding you. See this as a huge opportunity of having the space to be you and not an enabler. The 'piecing it together' part comes so much later.

You are doing great in my opinion!