Mrs. SP, 10 years ago: "I think it's great that you got this offer. Now we'll have the flexibility with the kids so we won't have to have a nanny."
Mrs. SP, 5 years ago: "I so hate my job, but I so love my job. But there's no way I could do it without your flexibility."
Mrs. SP, 9 months ago: "Why couldn't you work like I do?"
So you make sense of it.
Just relating here because I think it is a huge issue to my H that I didn't "work" more...I think if you look at the time frame, the perception of working w/flexibility changes as the kids get older and seem to require less of our attention. I felt like H and I had a deal and that I was respected for being mom first but looking back, I see that he felt that with the kids older, I should be bringing in more money AND that I was not living up to my own potential.
So, that is me projecting...but I think there may be some truth to it. And, even though I have judged him for his "values" or lack there-of, perhaps it was more of an issue than I was willing to acknowledge and respect and seeing as I am now going to be forced to step up and create a career, maybe (one hopes) fulfill something of my potential...perhaps, in hindsight, it might have been worth considering sooner while in the marriage.
