As I think more about this, I am inclined to think that someone who really doesn't give a fig would not even reply.
No reply is requested or needed. Saying I already cancelled (although true) could come across as "you can't fire me, I quit" And responding to his statement about my alleged "annoyance, rage, contempt, ironic hostility, blame etc." would just be engaging like someone who cared enough to defend myself, or say "what about what you did", blah blah blah.
No reply could mean many things. It could mean I am so devastated I can't type through my tears. It could mean I'm mad. (I am annoyed about not getting my vacation, but this could be a blessing in disguise.) But also someone hurt or mad would probably shoot off an email either blasting him or saying "How could you . . ."
You just don't know what no reply means. And not replying would be very unlike me - a 180.
You are making the assumption he will put that much thought into your reply. And even if he considered it.. it's doubtful he will come to the same conclusions as what it means as your giving him credit for. If he could do that.. it's doubtful you'd be in this position.
2nd guessing this to death is not going to change the circumstances...
do you want out or not? What is best for you as you confront the most brutal facts of your current reality?
(((dudess)))
PS.. I'm in agreement with Purple... go visit her (or me).
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
