Bunny...We have been going to MC together and I have gone by myself once. I really was hoping that the MC could show my H the errors of his ways , sort of speak, but so far I don't think that it is helping at all. I worry that I am wasting my time here.
Stuck....about telling my H that he is disrespectful? I have done this many times and he always comes back with how I am being disrespectful to him instead. It is a vicious circle that we are in with that one.
Break...you are right not to say anything to him about finding a real man cuz my H would accuse me of having OM on the side. I get accussed of this all the time as it is now.
Right now things are getting worse. We had a big fight last night that was so pointless and ended up being a degrading battle between the two of us. I truely was not a nice wife and said many mean and hateful things to him that I now regret today. I said something to him that brings me to tears just thinking about it.
We fought over money, sex, whose cheating or has cheated on who, the kids, the house, the material things. Literally everything that a person can fight about. And in the end nothing got solved.
I thought that he had hung up on me and then this morning I got a message from him (I had shut my phone off last night after the fight ended) on his friends' phone that said that my H's phone was broken. Pretty sure that he broke it himself. Plus he had the nerve to tell me that I should buy him a new one before he got home, so that leds me to believe that he is blaming me for him breaking his phone. Oh well, I will not be fixing that mistake for him.
I am depressed about all of the crap that has been going on between my H and I. It seems to be getting worse and I feel like I am being sucked down in quicksand. The more I try to fix my M the more it seems to be sinking. Maybe I need to do a 180 on that and stop trying to fix it. Any thoughts on that by anyone?
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
