Wasn't there for her emotionally/supportly when her mother died.
2. Didn't get high-paying job and liked having low-paying job ("didn't share her values")
3. Slept in office instead of in bed so as to wake up at 2-3 a.m. to get work done
Okay .
1. Not there emotionally for her or support her.
So for all we know she told you a milion times how she liked sex, and you just did not suport her or understand her because you were not there emotionally nor listening. I doubt not being there for her mum dying was the one and only time she felt abandoned or not listened to.
2. Would not take high paying job.
So you left the responsibility of providing for the family on her shoulders? Did you ask her everyday if she was tired of carrying that load SP. So you got to enjoy every minute with the kids and she worked. Do you think she was ever envious of that luxury you enjoyed. Does not matter if having kids was just your idea SP. She carried and delivered them and I am betting loved them as much as you did. She probably hated that you had this AMAZING relationship with the kids , that she was unable to build due to her commitments.
What was your last one ? Oh yeah !
3.Slept in the office so she would not be disturbed Did you discuss this decision or were you just being thoughtful ( unemotional and unsupportive ) . She worked all day, maybe she wanted company in the bed at night. Even in sleep you feel your partner beside you. And this was a job that paid less than you were worth.
And then she was unresponsive when you did decide to come to bed. How dare she find Signore Stumellu after all that you were doing for her.
Maybe next R you could work a job that enabled you to share all the good things in your life and that includes being in the marriage bed
I say this from the prospective of the WAW that i was .
