It's precisely because of situations like you described with your son and your wife during/after delivery and in NICU, and because of Themselves, that Mrs. SP gets extra points in the final decision. Not because she merits them necessarily, and if there was abuse it might negate all of that--but because in giving Mrs. SP that handicap (think golf here, not wheelchairs), you're acknowledging that there's another entity involved here.
As in my previous to @aliveandkicking, my instinctive reaction is to agree with you, hoosiermama.
But that doesn't mean I don't find it Immensely Irritating that, yet again, Left-Behind has to do That Which Walkaway Wouldn't.
Because obviously there was no such handicap where MR. SP was concerned.... "Too little, too late."
Hey, I never said it was fair. Life ain't fair. Jus' sayin' that if you have it in you to rise above, take the high road and all of that--and you can still make that connection with Mrs. SP--then you'll sleep better at night and look back with, perhaps, less regret. That is, in the absence of all other factors which cannot be predicted at this point. But--and this is the biggie--you have to be able to do it without resentment. 'Cuz that's the big poison. Certainly the one I could never overcome.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
