Jody is outstanding. I really love working w/her. In fact, I'm pretty sure if I'd have acted sooner and known about DB sooner, I'd still be married. However, that is a negative as it would mean my XW would still be messed up.
Anyway, Jody has been great for me at every step of the way in my situation. I absolutely adore her. I'm glad you've found her too.
As for the "steps" she said step one is to diffuse all anger and negative emotions. This is where you have to pull yourself away from anything that can cause a negative reaction and ask "is my action going to reduce or increase negative feelings?"
"Step Two" is friendship where you both are able to feel really good w/each other. YOu are free and natural w/out any (or many) inhibitions. Things just start to flow naturally in this phase.
"Step Three" is the stage where romance begins. From here you are into relationship mode.
I hope this helps. Let me know if you'd like me to elaborate at all on any of what I put down.
