#3 Seems a bit unrealistic but some here go for it. You need your mental health in tact and the OM thing is pretty brutal. Maybe check out some other threads where OM is involved.
I think this is mostly what I've been doing. It's what my heart wants me to do. I worry that she is thankful but not moved in the way I want her to be. Maybe it even drives her toward wanting a D because it makes her feel guilty. Stronger had some good points about this approach earlier but I haven't had any coaching in this direction for a while.
I want to succeed here. I want the best option, the one that gives me the best chance. I just don't have any idea what it is.
This is the biggest challenge I've ever encountered in my life...at least it feels like it. If this were a business problem I'd probably gobble it up...but I'm so invested emotionally here....I'm just rambling.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
