I don't think your outburst was so bad. After what you've been through, I think you deserved to vent.
Just don't do it again and don't answer his calls or texts anymore. Let him eat static for at least three weeks.
You don't want a divorce? Then don't file. What's he going to do about it right now, anyway?
When you think about it, his hands are tied right now too. He can't divorce you while he's out of the country for two years. The affair could burn out a lot sooner than that.
