Thanks, BJ. Yes, his anger has been an issue long before the bomb. We have gone to MC before the bomb to deal with it with minimal and only temporary success. He is the WAS now so I fear standing up to him because he is already so far out the door and I'm trying to save the Marriage. I know that means I put myself in doormat position. I don't want a D so saying I'll leave him if it doesn't change is not something I can do now. I have had various levels of temporary success by standing up to him in different ways, but the anger always returns.
How do I stand up to a WAS who I don't want to threaten with D (since that is what he is doing to me), but still draw a line? How can I get him to shape up? Is threatening D the only way?
