D- It just sounds like your pride is more important to you than your love for your wife or your commitment to your marriage.
If she had cancer, would you be saying "how long must I put up with this until she shows signs of being better?". I think MLC is as much of a disease- it's just mental, not physical. It's more like being with someone who's become addicted to drugs. They are irresponsible. Their personality changes, they do things they know are wrong and justify it till the cows come home.
It's a hell of a ride.
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed