I have a hard time explaining his behavior the last 1,5 years. The time he spent with us, the gifts, the hugs, the kisses, the refusal to give me the divorce at least 4 times, the wanting to come back, the months he spent in and out of this house, the refusal again to divorce... I just dont get it . He was out. He had his girlfriend even if things didnt look good for them, but he wasnt alone, he didnt need me as a crutch, why the h$ll did he want to come back? When I was taking to him back then, I was completely detached, calm and confident, I wasnt hostile, I wasnt asking for money or creating problems like that, I was living my life best way I could.
I cant explain it and it bothers me. Any ideas?
K,
Your H is extremely weak and very confused. I doubt he and OW will be living happily ever after. You gave him the chance many times to end the M but he didn't. He had a hard time ending it with either of you. OW is an addiction and he wasn't able to break it off. It seems like he was using the kids as an excuse with her for not ending the M.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
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