Yes, well then you have something we never did. I was just tossing out these things to see if any of them "resonated" as they say. My situation is rather extreme, I think.
And let me briefly weigh in on this part....
It's precisely because of situations like you described with your son and your wife during/after delivery and in NICU, and because of Themselves, that Mrs. SP gets extra points in the final decision. Not because she merits them necessarily, and if there was abuse it might negate all of that--but because in giving Mrs. SP that handicap (think golf here, not wheelchairs), you're acknowledging that there's another entity involved here. And that is your marriage/your family. Which deserves some points of its own. And believe me, having lived through the hell of divorce for the past 16 months, there are ripple effects that you cannot possibly anticipate, that you cannot possibly understand until you have been completely broken by them. Just my 2 cents worth, there.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
