I know what you mean about not having been patient enough in the past to build a solid foundation for a relationship before moving forward with it. I have been guilty of that too! Ditto re: not having a healthy relationship modeled for me. I find for myself that in the past I have thought that I had fairly rigid standards when considering a guy for a relationship, and that when a guy met the most important standards (not necessarily the most healthy standards) I let my walls down very quickly and became exclusive with him.
If I recall correctly, you have been working with Jody (DB coach) to discuss how you will proceed with new GF. I have been working with Jody too and find her VERY insightful. Would you be willing to share and list some of the key points that you have identified as being important for beginning a new relationship? I have read 3 of Harville Hendrix' and Helen LaKelly Hunt's books and have felt that their strategy for building a lasting relationship makes sense to me. Have you found other strategies that you think may be successful?
