But NOW??? ... I am going along with the house hunting on the theory that "it never hurts to look", but I'm not making any long term decisions ... I don't want to uproot and move only to get D'd... I am just going along for the ride
A sound policy, my brother. Could well be that Mizz Thinker is engaging in some avoidance behavior -- "solve" the problem by changing the scene. A familiar dynamic to me -- basically my mom's M.O. There's no problem so big that it can't be resolved by moving away from it. It all gets couched in "fresh start" terms, but of course the Problems all sneak into the boxes you've packed along with the china....they just don't always get unpacked until rather late in the game. They tend to be in that one box that sits in the corner of the garage, and when you open it you're mildly (and unpleasantly) surprised to learn you still have all the age-old challenges. Just in a new house.
