You know he's an alcoholic. You also know that just cutting back or whatever he said he did doesn't work for alcoholics. It's pretty much all-or-nothing, and there needs to be some kind of a program of support. Please tell me you didn't believe that his cutting down on drinking and subsequent improved behavior were anything but temporary, under these circumstances? Because that's part of the denial of the severity of the issue. You cannot work on the marriage issues without confronting and treating the alcoholism first. Whenever you decide you're ready to confront that issue, there is help out there. Until then, you're fooling yourself.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012