Posted by: aliveandkicking Mrs. SP did not need SP to touch her somewhere else...the dynamic of the R was scr*wed up.
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Posted by: aliveandkicking Apologies for my assumptions regarding Mrs. SP...I can and should however speak for myself and many women I know and in our cases, there's no prudeness, just stressful lives and strained dynamics.
One thing I've noticed in your posts here and there about the boards, AAK, is that you seem to oscillate between tolerating ambiguity and making these kinds of blanket, either-or/black-white statements. That's not uncommon, I think. We want there to be "A" reason for our sitches and "THE" trick for resolving them and "AN" answer to all our prayers.
In a sense the whole paradigm produces that kind of thinking -- "figure out what you did wrong" = (in my world) isolate the causal factor. But that's a pretty static model (hat tip @Thinker, @Alex) for a pretty dynamic situation. For one, it totally negates the fact that Walkaway changes in response to Left-Behind's changes which then change in response to Walkaway's changes, which means in a weird way DB'ing is an infinite loop.
With specific reference to my sitch, sure, the dynamic of the R was screwed up. But that doesn't mean that Mrs. SP ALSO didn't need me to do something else OR that her unwillingness to voice that until the Last Minute (literally) wasn't a function of HER PERSONAL screwed-uppedness and was necessarily a function of the R's screwed-uppedness.
