Is asking her why she removed me from facebook now considered pursuing?
Yeah probably.
I recently exasperated said to my W, can you please add me back to your FB friends, she kind of laughed and said, I need that space for me right now. She said she wanted to avoid hurting my feelings if she posted something happy.
It's not worth it.
My W is wearing her band on the other hand now too. It sucks. I'm with you there.