My heart is hurting and I just want to tell her to eff off and quit to make the hurting stop.
Remember that you told her you were done, she believed you and moved on. It sucks but she is now just living her life.
What are your options? Be specific. And then you can decide what to do.
You do not have to be friends with her or accommodate her or hold on to hope but most likely, you do have to suck up your feelings when you drop the girls off for their benefit, IMO.
She doesn't seem to give a sh*t about anyone or anything.
I don't see that. She is choosing to do things that you don't approve of and that is her right at this point. She may be working you a little cuz she knows how you feel. So, without anger, you can set boundaries and determine what is tolerable to you regarding parenting issues. But, her R with OM is her business now. You have the option of demanding that she leave him or you are filing for divorce but how do you think that will go?
I'm sorry it hurts so much. Again, what are your options? Lay them out clearly.
