So I started working on me. And in particular, working on being someone I could forgive for her failings. And lo and behold, once I had forgiven me, I found I had forgiven him, too.
If you want the WAS to come back, eliminate any valid reasons for their departure.
Hi Dia. I think you hit the nail on the head with the first sentence posted above. This is something that we have to do...no matter what! Working on ourselves is a MUST...regardless of the outcome.
Yep...this is a part of 'working on me', but it doesn't guarantee that they'll come back...heartbreaking as it is. But, we still have to do it...no matter what! It's part of becoming a better person, a better parent, and a better partner.
ps - I wholeheartedly agree with you about 'going first'! This is a mistake that I made chronically, over the years. Looking back, it was simply stupid and selfish to not do what I should have done, namely...'going first'. There's a lot of wisdom in the statement 'do you want to be right, or do you want to be married'!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
